I HAVE NO TITLE: Growing Old ?

I HAVE NO TITLE: Growing Old ?: Do we really grow old or we just learn to accept the realities of life? Have you ever thought that if it had not been for the ups and dow...

I HAVE NO TITLE: Illusion

I HAVE NO TITLE: Illusion: Living is all about moving on and letting go. You cannot hold on to a person or an emotion or one single activity or a luxury forever. You...

Growing Old ?

Do we really grow old or we just learn to accept the realities of life?

Have you ever thought that if it had not been for the ups and downs along with the happy and harsh times/events of life, you  might still be living as a teenager or a child. Does this brain of ours also grows old with us or is it the experiences of life that gives our brain this maturity?

What if we stop thinking and do whatever we want to do, irrespective of our age, gender, class and religion? People will call us crazy. Well of-course. If they see 30 year old fully grown up man taking rides in McDonalds play area people WILL call him crazy. People believe what they see. What they don't know is that he is following his heart, doing whatever he wants to do and enjoying. Ask yourselves, if you see a Muslim praying to Jesus or praying in a Hindu Temple you will think he/she has lost it. You believe what you see. You will start judging him/her because of his actions. What you might not know, that he is just doing it out of curiosity or just to witness other religion's ceremonies and to compare them with his/hers.

This all depends upon what you think. If you start caring about these judgmental eyes of people around you you will stop doing what your heart wishes. Then you eventually learn that one cannot do what he/she wishes or wants. That is the time your thoughts change direction. Its not the brain that grows old its your thoughts that change lanes. And these thought are not in born. this is what you learn during the course of life.

So whatever you are today is what you choose to be.

Illusion

Living is all about moving on and letting go. You cannot hold on to a person or an emotion or one single activity or a luxury forever. You eventually have to let go. You cannot count on to anyone or any luxury of the world. You are, you have been and you will forever be alone! In the back of your mind, in your subconscious, your mind knows this fact pretty clearly. It’s just that you create associations with multiple things and ignore this basic knowledge. It’s these associations that make it difficult to let go and move on. It’s the expectations that creates problems for us and we keep on living with the same feelings and avoid letting go. And honestly, these associations, expectations are all just an illusion created by yourself in your mind. Once you decide something with a clear mind and focus on it, no other force of the world can stop you from following your decision. Your mind is a very powerful gift from God; we just don’t use it sensibly. We live in a life of illusions created by ourselves in our mind due to which we suffer. And again this suffering is all an illusion. You feel genuine pain for a specific time period but the endless suffering and pain is all just an illusion due to which we hurt ourselves.

Shake off all these illusions from your mind and then look at life and think what you can do and what you can’t. Trust me you will come up with a long list of “dos”. It is also the only way of finding out what you are capable of!

Pause for a Second and THINK!

Have you ever thought ‘what if you die the next second’? What if you are diagnosed of a deadly disease which you cannot survive? Your days are numbered and your remaining life is spent counting days before death. At that point, when you relive your whole life, what do you see?

Ignore the life after death shivers, just forget about the unfulfilled wishes; just relive the life you have spent. What do you see? You see both good and bad days. Focus on the part about what you have been doing. You will realize that you spent life envying people, earning money, planning the future, messing up relationships on petty issues, living in the past and regretting bad decisions made, blaming fate for all the wrongdoings of life, fighting and arguing with people, gossiping/bitching about others, feeling jealous of friends/colleagues... There is an endless list of ‘such deeds’ you will remember. Pause for a second and think what benefit has it brought you? Apart from disturbing your mental health, inner peace and wasting time these activities have only damaged your life. And not just damaged your life it has hampered your happiness; and mind it this is on you. This impairment upon yourself is a result of your own doings.

Your envious and jealous attitude made you look down upon yourself. It leads to dissatisfaction with what you have. It made you focus on things you don’t have instead of the things you have. Because of such attitude you have been unable to cherish the gifts of God.

You kept on planning for future and worked and worked and worked; just to earn money for a better future. What if you don’t have a future? You spent all your life for a future which never existed. You wasted your life on something of which you have no guarantee.

You keep regrets in your heart for decisions which did not yield good results. And you just keep on living in regret. You keep on blaming fate for being unfair with you. If you die tomorrow, will you like the fact that you spent your last days blaming fate?

You argue with friends, fight with family and spoil relationships. Do you want to spend your last days alone? No family no friends around you to enjoy your last days with, is that what you want? You are wasting all the beauties of life. Top of all are wasting the most precious gift of God: LIFE ITSELF!

The world will not stop without you. People will not stop living; what matters is that will you be remembered in good faith? Will you leave a mark on this world that people take time to talk about you, in good terms? Or have you ever thought about any good you are leaving behind? Any good you have done for society or others without the expectation of getting something in return?

PAUSE FOR A SECOND AND RE-THINK. LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL. SPREAD LOVE AROUND YOU AND LIVE LIKE IT’S YOUR LAST DAY TODAY!

Good vs Bad

Sometimes life goes in a stagnant phase.

No good no bad just the same.

And this “same” eventually becomes bad for you. You cannot live in one specific phase forever. Whatever you do, whatever you wish for or whatever you plan, you just cannot change your circumstances. At this point you think that if you had not practiced the so-called-religious-rules-of-life you would not have landed in this particular situation. At this point of time in life you wish you had defied the rules. You wish you were the bad person in the eyes of society. You wish you had tasted the enjoyment of being bad. Then, atleast, this monotonous-never-ending-twisted-phase-of-life never would have happened.

The regret of "being good" kills you from inside, as one cannot imagine living in a life of regrets because of the good choices you made! This gives you the realization that living life by the rules or living life practicing good, does not frees you from any regrets or disappointments. This type of life showers you with a different set of challenges which often dawns heavier clouds of disappointments with yourself!

 

 

Deprivation.Pain.Regret.

Life has its own way of teaching you things. Sometimes it makes you learn through regrets sometimes through pain and suffering and sometimes it’s through deprivation. I on the other hand have experienced all such phases of so-called life learning lessons through all such means. And experience tells me:

Regret comes after pain and suffering.

And pain and suffering comes after deprivation.

Hence the order being: deprivation, pain and regret.

Regret is something which I never had and I was very proud of this fact of my life. I was confident and firm about the decisions I took in my life. Occasionally I took calculated decisions taking in consideration all pros and cons; but sometimes it was just like a revelation that ‘this is the right decision’ and I used to follow it. These occasional revelation kinda decisions made me believe that God Himself is making me take the right decisions and no doubt it always proved good in my favor. These can be called “risky decisions”. But with my strong faith in God and stronger believe on the fact that God is there with me in these decisions always made me happy. Never knew that instead of the risky decisions these planned choices, will shatter my confidence and wreck the no-regret element of my life.

There is a time when you have everything offered to you like a full decorated platter of food which has all the premium items on it made from very fine ingredients. The full luxury platter is at a hands reach and you choose not to extend your hand and reject the platter because you are not in need of it. Therefore, you just walk pass it choosing to ignore. Life gave you an option and the option you picked was rejection.

Life goes on with this confidence of right decision in mind and everything is good and positive around. Faith in God grows stronger and stronger as the choices you have taken are resulting in superb results. You feel like on top of the world. People look up to you. Acknowledge you. Quote you as an example. And you on the other hand cannot be happier but still never let this get to your head. You continue to thank God for His countless blessings.

Then all of a sudden life goes gloomy. All the self-confidence and surety about life smashes to smithereens. Everyone around you is happy and cheerful because they achieved what they were struggling for. Only you are the one deprived of your dreams. Here comes the phase of deprivation. You can blame fate for it; you can hold the circumstances responsible or you can blame the people around you for not helping you, the basic fact does not change, that it is you who has not achieved what you desired. With this realization comes a huge surge of pain. You made every effort you could; you struggle like hell but no success. At this time all you can say to yourself is that maybe now is not the right time, something big is waiting but these so-called consoling thoughts change nothing. Thus the period of pain continues.

During this period, you go back in memory and rethink all those events which led to this day. You think and think and think and this overthinking leads to incorrect judgments, wrong conclusions and you create scenarios which never existed. You keep on creating reasons and conclusions which eventually lead to regrets. Regret brings with itself a strong surge of emotions, the building blocks of which are deprivation of your dreams, an unending phase of pain and overthinking. Regret kills you from inside. It questions your entire being and the reason for existence. No matter how hard you try, the pain of deprivations spurts regret and hence a long period of grief.

This is storyline of everyone. For some the path from pain to regret is longer for some it’s short. But this is the reality. You eventually learn to live with this pain and suffering and it becomes a part of you. But one never forgets his/her first ever feeling of this pain, deprivation and regret!